AR Rahman, the acclaimed musician, recently addressed the public scrutiny surrounding his separation from his wife, Saira Banu, after nearly three decades of marriage. In an interview with Nayandeep Rakshit, Rahman shared his thoughts on the challenges of being a public figure and the criticism that comes with it. “The choice of being in public life is intentional, so everybody gets reviewed.
Right from the richest person to even God gets reviewed, so who am I?” Rahman said, reflecting on the perils of fame. He emphasized the importance of staying grounded and avoiding toxicity, stating, “As long as we stay together and are not conceited or toxic… even those who criticise us – they’re all family.”
Rahman also touched on the concept of karma and the need for empathy when dealing with online trolls and negative comments.
“If I say things about someone’s family, someone will say things about mine. And we, as Indians, believe this. Nobody should say unnecessary things because everyone has a sister, a wife, a mother,” he remarked.
Even in the face of hurtful words, Rahman chooses to respond with compassion, saying, “Even when someone says something hurtful, I pray, ‘Please God, forgive them and guide them’.”
The news of Rahman and Saira Banu’s separation broke in November last year, after nearly 30 years of marriage.
Addressing public life challenges
The couple shares three children – son AR Ameen and daughters Khatija Rahman and Raheema Rahman.
Following the announcement, Rahman took to social media to express the emotional impact of the decision, writing, “We had hoped to reach the grand thirty, but all things, it seems, carry an unseen end. Even the throne of God might tremble at the weight of broken hearts. Yet, in this shattering, we seek meaning, though the pieces may not find their place again.”
In March, when Rahman was hospitalized for chest pain, Saira Banu issued a statement clarifying their relationship status.
She requested that people refrain from referring to her as Rahman’s “ex-wife,” as they were not officially divorced. “We are not officially divorced; we are still husband and wife. It’s just that we are separated because of my health issues.
For the last two years, I haven’t been doing well, and I didn’t want to stress him out,” she explained. Despite the personal challenges, AR Rahman remains focused on his music and continues to captivate audiences with his exceptional talent. His dignified response to the public scrutiny surrounding his separation showcases his commitment to handling personal matters with grace and respect.
